I’m going to let you all in on a little secret: I never planned my wedding. Growing up, I never thought about what kind of ceremony I would have, what the colors would be, where it would be. You know what I did plan? My bridal party. I thought about who would be in it, how I would ask them, what they would say when I did. I mapped it all out.
I think that when it comes to planning your bridal party, that’s one of the biggest problems: you get so caught up in the plan. You want to make everyone feel included, and, if you’re like me, that’s a LOT of people. It’s easy to get really down on yourself, especially when it comes to choosing who should or should not be included in your bridal party.
When you’re planning out your bridal party, begin by thinking about the people you absolutely need to have. For me, it was a no brainer to include my two sisters and my fiancé’s sister. But that was when things really started to get difficult. After all, how could I pick and choose which friends would stand with me on that day? What do you do when all of your friends mean the world to you?
Honestly, it was a tough choice for me. My bridal party doesn’t include a single member of the one I planned out in middle school. At first, it made me sad, thinking about the people I always thought would be with me on my wedding day that won’t be. But I decided to forget about “the plan” and appreciate the beautiful women that will be by side. The women that have agreed to put me before themselves, keep me calm and stand by me no matter how much of a “Bridezilla” I turn out to be. I decided to appreciate the fact that I have these amazing women in my life.
Choosing your bridal party is so hard to do because there is always going to be someone whose feelings get hurt. There will always be someone who wants to be a part of it that you just don’t have the room for. At the end of the day, though, it’s your day. It’s your decision. You don’t owe anyone a place in your wedding, and you aren’t obligated to make someone a bridesmaid just because you’re friends. Don’t listen to what anyone else says, on your day, you deserve to have everything the way that you want it. Do you want fourteen bridesmaids? Have fourteen bridesmaids. Do you want two bridesmaids? Do that instead. All that matters, at the end of your wedding day, is that you’re married to the love of your life. And considering that, those little details don’t matter so much anymore, do they?