Something Old...Something New .... Something Borrowed And Something BLUE...
Happy New Year, everyone! It only seems fitting that for my first blog of the New Year, we’re ending our series on the four somethings. By now, you've heard all about the somethings old, new and borrowed. Today, I want to talk about SOMETHING BLUE. I won’t lie, I’ve been looking forward to writing this one. I love all of the traditions, obviously, but this one is my favorite.
Something blue, typically worn in your garter, symbolizes fidelity. It symbolizes that promise that you make to always be faithful together, the love you have for each other, and the purity of your relationship. It’s a pretty important little trinket, when it comes to predictions for your marriage. I can’t think of many things that are more important to your new marriage than faithfully loving each other for the rest of your lives.
When my fiancé was in school, there was almost nothing more important than his fraternity. He loved his brothers, and he credits them with making him the man that he is today, the man that I fell in love with. He met his best friends through his chapter, and almost every groomsman in his side of the wedding party is a member of his fraternity. In many fraternities, there is a tradition called “lavaliering”, where a man will give a girl a necklace bearing the letters of his fraternity, a symbol of his love and commitment to her, to show her that she is as important to him as the men that he has pledged himself to. So, it’s a pretty big deal.
Six months after I started dating my fiancé, the day of the wedding of one of the members of his pledge class, he told me that he had gotten me a necklace that he wanted me to try on.
“Close your eyes,” he told me as he fastened it around my neck.
When I looked down, I was wearing the letters of his fraternity, my very own lavalier, and, nestled at the top, a perfect little turquoise stone, the color of my sorority. It was, quite honestly, the first time that I let myself hope for a real, permanent future with the man I now intend to marry.
Two months later, in front of his fraternity house, surrounded by his best friends, the men he credits with helping him become the incredible man that he is today, we had our lavaliering ceremony. Much like a small wedding, it’s a ceremony in which you pledge yourselves to each other, and where you agree to uphold the standards and honors of his fraternity. Standing across from him that night, looking into his eyes and saying those words, I knew for sure. This was, most assuredly, the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
For my wedding, I plan to attach my lavalier to my bouquet, right next to the badge of my sorority. I can’t imagine a better way to predict fidelity in my marriage than with the symbol of our very first commitment to each other. Today, there are 58 days until my wedding. 58 days until we make good on the promises that we made that August night, a year and a half ago. 58 days until I marry the most wonderful man in the world (sorry ladies).
Something blue is such an important prediction for your marriage, such an important thing to remember for the rest of your life. It’s hard to say for sure that you’re going to love one person, and only one person, for as long as you live. But you’re doing it. You’re promising yourself to him, just like he’s promising himself to you. To have and to hold for as long as you both live. That’s important. Your something blue is there to remind you of that commitment, to hold you to it. Something blue is more than just a trinket or a garter. It’s a reminder of the promises that you’re making on your wedding day, a reminder to keep them for as long as you both live. A reminder that, no matter what happens, he is yours and you are his. And I can’t think of anything that could possibly be more important than that.
Although this is the last in Rachel's Something series, don't worry, she will be back in two weeks with a new series. Until then, check out our Vendor Spotlight where we sit down with Krista Lee Photography. Also if you are located around the Charlotte area, come check out our booth at the Carolina Bridal Show ...January 17th. We will be at booth 405-505. Until next time, stay warm and be sure to share your love on Facebook and Instagram.